Often times nursing mothers find it hard to leave their current baby going to the hospital for another delivery or even the nursing baby becoming desolate not seeing the mom for the period of her absence while in hospital for new delivery. The obvious is that there must be a separation for that short period of time and the article below suggested certain tips to follow to address this situation.
Many women worry about leaving their older child if they go to the hospital to give birth to their baby. It doesn’t help that labor is unpredictable in both timing and length, making it even harder to prepare a child who is often little more than a baby himself.
It is, of course, often possible for the child to say with his other parent, rather than being left with a friend or relative. But we also know that labor advances faster when women have support from a loved one, so most of the time a woman’s partner stays with her during labor and the older child is left in someone else’s care.
How do we prepare our older baby, toddler or preschooler for this separation from mom, and maybe even from home?
1. Create a strong relationship now. Your little one might well have a hard time during your absence from her. But a close relationship with you will give her a strong foundation, and provide the buffer she needs to recover quickly.
2. Pick the person who will take care of your little one while you are having the baby, and start working with that person to prepare your child. Leave him with that person as often as possible, for short and longer periods of time. Try to arrange, after months of this, for your child to nap there in order to get comfortable falling asleep. If your child does well napping, consider a sleepover – but don’t push it. If your child isn’t ready, it isn’t worth the potential trauma. If the birth requires a sleepover, so be it because it’s unavoidable, but that one night should be the only night unless the child is completely comfortable with this person.
3. Don’t try to get your child used to separation in general by leaving her with other people frequently. That will just traumatize her and make her clingy. The goal is not to help her get used to separation and being with random people, because that is not how attachment works. The goal is to help her build a relationship with your designated person, whoever it will be, so that person can calm her during your absence. The only thing that will help her cope with your absence is the presence of someone she trusts.
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