Raising a kid in a proper way by parents are not common phenomenon especially when the parents are not together. Its going to be hard to raise a kid to be worthy of emulation and even as a model for other parents to adore. But, there has been tested and proven methods to achieve this in a simple and easy steps to follow. These have been clearly and concisely enumerated below by a parent who is generous enough to share the experience that can safely be adopted, Read the article below to grasp .
All of us want to raise children who become self-disciplined — and happy — adults. The only question is how best to do that. Luckily, we know the answer. Research studies have been following children from babyhood to adulthood for decades, so we actually know what works to raise great kids. Here are the five most important things we know.
1. Children need a secure attachment with at least one loving adult. Parents facilitate this secure attachment in the first year by listening to their unique baby and responding to her needs. They continue to nurture secure attachment by accepting the full range of who their child is — including all that messy neediness and anger — into the toddler years and beyond. Parents who are unable to tolerate the child’s neediness, controlling (rather than accepting the child as he is), intrusive (rather than taking the child’s cues), or otherwise reacting out of their own needs rather than responding to their child’s needs are less likely to raise a securely attached child.
This close relationship is what motivates kids to cooperate and to accept their parents’ recommendations and rules. Without that bond, parents lose their influence as soon as children begin interacting with peers, because kids are looking to satisfy those unrequited needs via their peers.
Do you have to “attachment parent” to raise a securely attached child? No. Estimates are that before parents in the US began using what we think of as attachment practices (baby-wearing, co-sleeping, nursing), about 60% of toddlers were still securely attached. It’s the parent’s emotional responsiveness that determines security of attachment. Of course, many parents find that attachment practices increase their responsiveness, which the research is beginning to confirm, at least for baby-wearing.
2. Children need to be able to “self-soothe” to manage their behavior; and they only learn to self-soothe by being soothed by parents. That’s because the neural pathways that release soothing biochemicals are formed when the baby is soothed by the parent. Leaving little ones alone with their big emotions does NOT teach them to self-soothe; it undermines their neural development so that it’s harder for them to calm themselves throughout their lives. Self-soothing is essential for children to learn to manage their anxiety, emotions and behavior. Children who are explosive, anxious, or “dramatic” need extra support in the form of parental calming (as well as safe opportunities to show us their emotions, see #4 below).
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